Sonam J. Lama

  • Live as if you’re already dead

    Live as if you’re already dead. 

    Live as if you’re on borrowed time. 

    This remaining life is just icing on the cake.

    Close your eyes, take a deep breathe and imagine you are already dead.

    Now open your eyes and be grateful for being born again. You have a second chance, a new lease on life.

    Do what sets your soul on fire. Attack your bucket list.

    Have a biased toward action and achieve your wildest dreams, now when you are of the right mind, able bodied and still have this youthful adventurous nature.

    Time waits for no man.

    If you JFDI like my mentor Dan Martell has on his license plates, which stands for Just F*cking Do It and “Carpe Diem”, from the Roman poet Horace, which means “seize the day”, you will arrive at the end of your life with fulfillment, gratitude and a joyful feeling of doing all that you wanted to do.

    What a way to go out.

    You truly appreciated the ephemeralness of life, the miracles it possesses and truly squeezed every ounce of juice from life’s sweet nectar. 

    “We have two lives, and the second begins when we realize we only have one”- Confucius.

    Essentially, this means your first life is when you felt you have all of eternity. But your second life begins when you realize you only have this one and so you better make sure you make the most of it.

  • Everything Is Useless (But Let That Liberate You)

    Now, let that liberate you. Free you to find joy, play, be engulfed in your passions, your hobbies, have fun, go on adventures, and do whatever your heart desires.

    Everything is useless. There is nothing to fix.

    Whether we live in a simulation or not. 

    All of existence happened by chance.

    There is no rhyme, reason or purpose to anything.

    Once you realize this, you will be liberated.

    You will feel the weight of the world melt off your shoulders.

    You can now reconnect with your childhood passions.

    You will begin to play again.

    Since all of life is simply a play, a game, a non sensical, purposeless, meaningless existence.

    You are born, you have experiences, collect memories and then you die.

    Nothing more, nothing less.

    There is no God, no after life, no nothing.

    This is it.

    Now, let that liberate you. Free you to find joy, play, be engulfed in your passions, your hobbies, have fun, go on adventures, and do whatever your heart desires.

    Because in the end everything is useless.

  • Emptiness

    Spiritual emptiness: viewed not as a psychological void, but as a deliberate releasing of ego, mental chatter, and control—opens space for inner clarity, compassion, and a deeper connection to reality.

    Emptiness: devoid of anything.

    Mentally, emptiness is removing all limitations, doubts, fears, intrusive thoughts, distractions.

    Phrases like detachment, letting go, clarity, etc.

    Spiritually, emptiness is being enlightened, no one, no mind, being a God or Goddess, being one with nature, being one with silence, being able to enter a meditative state wherever you are.

    Physically, emptiness is removing waste from your body, whether it be fecal matter, urine, snot, dirt, and so on.

    When my mind, body and soul is empty I am at peace.

    I feel clean, clear, and possess clarity.

    Emptiness is the doorway to bliss.

    You connect with a higher vibrational frequency.

    Your senses are heightened and it’s like you are finally able to see, to hear, to feel, to taste and to truly be aware and observe all that is happening around you.

    There is a certain sense of purity with emptiness.

    It feels like when you were in your mother’s womb, untouched, unaffected, and simply pure.

    Emptiness can be achieved through meditation, removing all waste from your body, purifying your mind, cleansing your body and simply sitting in silence.

    Pure unadulterated emptiness.

    Emptiness connects you with all of existence, you become one with the universe and you become true awareness.

    May you continue your path and enjoy the eternal bliss of emptiness.

  • Life Is Absurd (And That’s Ok)

    Life is absurd…

    And that’s ok.

    There is no meaning to any of this.

    Life does not require a meaning.

    If you need a meaning then the meaning is the meaning you give it or that your existence, life itself, to live is the meaning.

    You wake up, do the same things everyday, create some memories and then you die.

    Or you wake up, go on fun adventures, collect memories, and then you die.

    There is no good or bad.

    It is what it is.

    Things happen unexpectedly. With no rhyme or reason.

    You may be a great person, all prayed up, but then get shot in the head for no reason at all. Fine, if you need a reason, the reason was someone just woke up one day and wanted to kill somebody. There. There’s your reason.

    We are all alone on this planet.

    Every man for themselves.

    And that’s ok.

    For me, I’m an optimistic person by nature, so life being absurd actually instills in me a feeling of freedom, possibility, abundance and that anything is possible.

    We have this one life, this short existence, and then it’s over, into eternal darkness.

    “Basically, at the very bottom of life, which seduces us all, there is only absurdity, and more absurdity. And maybe that’s what gives us our joy for living, because the only thing that can defeat absurdity is lucidity.” -Albert Camus

    In this context, lucidity means honesty.

    Our antidote to absurdity of life is awareness, acceptance and to live our greatest lives.

    At least that’s what I feel.

    What’s your view on the absurdity of life?

  • Your Happiness Doesn’t Come From Anyone But Yourself

    Your happiness doesn’t come from anyone but yourself.

    All my life, I thought happiness comes from others. Being with family, friends, doing things, achieving things. These were all external.

    I now realize happiness is internal.

    It’s already within me and available to me at any moment.

    For example, today I went to pick my son up from my ex-wife’s apartment. She was in a bad mood, which altered my mood a bit. But then I quickly realized her mood does not affect mine. You and I have our own internal locus of control. I wish we come back together as a family but whether that happens or not does not affect my happiness one bit.

    I am happiness and I will be happy no matter what happens in life.

    Happiness is a choice.

    It is something we can decide to be at any moment in our lives.

    You must learn to be happy alone, with people and in any situation.

    Life has many ups and downs but through it all, in your life, you are the main constant.

    Your happiness will not come to you. It can only come from you.

    “If you want to be happy, be.” — Tolstoy

    Your happiness doesn’t come from anyone but yourself.

  • You Must Do Things You Don’t Feel Like Doing (All The Time)

    You must do things you don’t feel like doing, all the time.

    As a Father, business owner, and coach there are so many things I do not feel like doing. But I do them anyway.

    You have to build up this muscle where you start moving, which begins to make you feel like doing more, and then before you know it the thing you didn’t want to do is almost done or completed.

    Action precedes motivation, meaning discipline requires taking physical or mental steps before you actually “feel” like doing them. 

    Here’s a core principle of discipline: 

    Action precedes emotion: You do not need to wait for inspiration or a good mood to start a task; starting the action changes your brain chemistry and creates momentum.

    For example,

    1. Waking up. Some days you just don’t want to because you’re tired, you didn’t get enough sleep, or whatever. But you get up, walk to the bathroom, wash some cold water on your face and before you know it you feel a little more awake and you’ve got some momentum. 
    2. I don’t feel like training my Basketball player or fitness clients. But same idea. I get to the gym and for some odd reason I begin to feel good, the training is moving, time is ticking and before I know it we had a great session.
    3. I don’t feel like working out. I know the value of exercise after reading books like, “Spark: The Revolutionary New Science of Exercise and the Brain”.
    4. Writing on my blog and my newsletter. Frankly, I didn’t feel like writing this post you’re reading. But I have a habit of writing everyday and I know the impact and value my experience can bring to you. And so, I begin to write one letter, then one word and before I know it, here I am almost complete with this post.
    5. Doing my accounts receivables. I hate asking people for money but once I open up my Google Spreadsheets, getting into the flow of deep work, invoicing my clients, the boring work I had been avoiding is done.

    TLDR: get moving. Just by taking the smallest action, you will begin momentum, and you’ll begin to feel like doing more.

    Here’s the formula:

    Action -> Feel -> Result. 

    You can’t always rely on feeling good because as humans our emotions and how we feel go up and down. But what we can rely on is taking action, whether we feel like it or not, which is the first trigger to the domino effect to completing any task.

  • Effortless Success

    Effortless Success.

    Be in flow.

    I was training one of my girls on how to improve her 3 point shooting and the word I ketp saying was, “effortless”.

    When you are relaxed, breathe, and shoot without much effort the more your shots will go in.

    It’s like the Chinese finger trap.

    The only way to get your finger out is to loosen your grip. The harder you try and more force you use the more you will continue to get your finger trapped. To get out of a Chinese finger trap, stop pulling your hands apart and push your fingers gently inward toward the center.

    It’s the same with success.

    You have to let go of the outcome, get in flow and focus on consistent effort, creating systems to make the work seem effortless, and do what feels like play to you but work to others.

    Taking action will become a habit, you’ll have the momentum and it will feel almost easy to continue to succeed.

  • Adapt Or Die. (Not The Strongest or The Fittest)

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    Adapt Or Die. (Not The Strongest or The Fittest)

    Are you going to adapt to AI, Robotics, Technology, Crypto, and more?

    Or are you going to be like a f*cking boomer and say, “oh no, I can’t learn that. I’m too old, tired, and have no patience to learn about AI and whatever new thing has come out.”

    Get the f*ck out of here.

    To survive and thrive you have to learn it, leverage it and be it’s master or forever be it’s slave.

    “It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent… It is the one that is most adaptable to change” -Leon C. Megginson

    So it’s not about how strong, fit or intelligent you are, but if you can adapt and embrace the newest advancements.

    We humans have survived for approximately 300,000 years through severe climate shifts, extreme environments, and ancient population bottlenecks by relying on biological and cultural adaptability.

    It is our very spirit of persistence, resilience and relentlessness that has allowed us to survive all of our previous challenges and hardships.

    Those of us who can bend with the wind like a bamboo tree with this new world we are living in will be the ones who survive, thrive and ultimately succeed.

    Will you adapt or die?

  • Autonomous Businesses and Agentic Income

    The future is here. AI can create and run businesses for you.

    Crazy.

    Enter the age of autonomous business and agentic income.

    Growing up in the 90’s our current future was something I only saw in sci-fi movies.

    But now it’s here.

    Do yo you think your boy is going to get in on the gold rush?

    Hell f*cking yeah!

    I’m actually diving into Grok Bot and it’s wild what it can do!

    It feels like we’re in this jungle where everyone is dispersed and has the freedom to create anything within our imagination.

    It’s a land grab and ripe for the taking.

    Call it new age war. One in which people don’t die but there are winners and losers in gaining market share in particular sectors of business.

    Stay tuned for more updates on the agents I’ll be creating with Grok Bot and more ai tools.

    Super intelligence is here.

    Let us all leverage the power of super intelligence, autonomous businesses and agentic income.

  • Climb Your Own Mountain

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    What are your biggest dreams?

    What are your parents dreams?

    Right before you die, which would you be happy you achieved?

    Right, so live by your internal compass, listen to your intuition and make your dreams come true.

    They had their chance. Now it’s your turn.

    Growing up we’re conditioned by society to follow the rules and do what our elders say.

    However, when we become adults the world is our oyster.

    Yes, we still to have follow the law so we don’t get thrown in jail but barring that we have the freedom to do what we want.

    And at that crossroad of following what others tell you whats best for you and what you tell yourself, listen to yourself and climb your own mountain.

    Only you truly know what it is you want to accomplish in this world.

    When you die, you will be all alone and left with either regret or fulfillment.

    Even if you don’t reach the levels of success you set out at least you dared and were brave enough to pursue your hearts calling.

    Oh what a pity it would be to be called to live your dreams but reject the call for fear.

    So I urge you to listen to yourself, follow your intuition, and climb your own mountain.

    I’ve climbed my own mountain and would not have it any other way.

  • When Your Mind is Flustered, Sit and Meditate

    As a writer, we sometimes have writer’s block.

    Sometimes we have no ideas, other times we have too many to choose from.

    In these moments, when my mind is racing, I always sit and meditate.

    I sit, close my eyes, and just focus on my breathe.

    When my mind wanders, I bring it back to the present moment.

    I simply slow down, I listen to the sounds around me, the sensations I’m feeling, and wonder in this miracle called life.

    You see in our modern world, we’re always rushing, focusing on money, motion, and achieving the next thing.

    This is good. But sometimes we simply need a reset, calm our monkey mind, slow down, catch up with ourselves, become aligned and back into flow.

    It’s almost as if our mind, body, and soul need to become aligned once again.

    I feel deep meditation and being in flow during our meditation allows us to return back to center, become grounded and gives our mind, body and soul the quiet, silence, and recharge it’s been screaming for.

    In fact, I just came out of my 20 minute and 1 second meditation and my mind, body and souls feels much more calm, aligned, and a deep sense of relaxation.

    We often feel meditation is a waste of time, but it’s actually the opposite.

    If you do it right, you will feel much more relaxed, achieve 10 to 100 times more, and be able to flow tithe the treacherous waters of life.

    Try it.

    And remember, when your mind is flustered, sit and meditate.

  • Getting enough sleep makes life worth living (Sleep is a superpower)

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    I read on reddit somewhere saying, “improving your sleep feels as good as winning the lottery.” I mean that’s not too far off.

    When I have high quality sleep I feel like I can literally do anything.

    My energy is sky high, I’m super optimistic, I have a zest for life, excited, eager to do stuff. It makes life worth living.

    But, when I don’t get enough sleep I don’t feel like living, life is highly unenjoyable, I don’t want to talk with anyone, I know I’m not operating at my my full potential and it just f*cking sucks. 

    I mean I can still get through but it’s a slog, requires a ton of will power, digging deep, and my  battery literally feels like it’s at 1%.

    I mean we all know this, but feeling the firsthand affects of sleep deprivation and high quality sleep is the only real way to know the difference.

    Matthew Walker, author of “Why We Sleep: On Health and Longevity”, says, “The shorter your sleep, the shorter your life span.”

    Walker describes sleep as “Mother Nature’s best effort yet at contra-death” and the “Swiss army knife of health”. He warns that sleeping under six or seven hours nightly “demolishes your immune system” and doubles cancer risk, emphasizing that sleep is a “non-negotiable biological necessity” rather than an optional luxury.

    On Performance and the Brain, Walker calls sleep the “greatest legal performance-enhancing drug” and notes that the mind cannot accurately gauge its own sleep deprivation.

    He also refers to sleep as “the best bridge between despair and hope”.

    “When sleep is abundant, minds flourish. When it is deficient, they don’t.” Matthew Walker

    “You are a professional sleeper. Make sleep your #1 appointment in your calendar. Nothing influences your conscious or subconscious existence more.” -Bryan Johnson.

    “If you re-frame your identity as a professional sleeper, you take it as seriously as you would your job. That means you show up on time and treat it with a certain level of professionalism”. -Bryan Johnson

    Eating my last meal and drinking 3 hours before bed has transformed my sleep quality.

    For example, I used to eat 1 hour or even 30 minutes before bed and that left me either waking up at 4 in the morning to pee or waking up groggy, foggy headed, lethargic, wondering why am I still sleepy or why my brain is not functioning at its highest capacity.

    However, I dove into research, articles, videos, podcasts from renowned scientist and biohackers like Bryan Johnson, on how to achieve the highest quality sleep and wake up energized to take on the day.

    What I found was…

    1. Sleep and wake up at the same time every day. Even on weekends to avoid social jet lag on Monday.
    2. Eat and drink 3 to 5 hours before bed
    3. Sleep is nature’s number 1 miracle drug

    The results:

    1. I wake up with super charged energy in the mornings
    2. I have a clear mind, rested mind and body. No more fogginess or grogginess.
    3. I am optimistic and in a much better mood.

    “Less sleep does not get more done. It just shrinks the value of what’s happening”. -Bryan Johnson

    So let’s all make a pact to protect our sleep, get to bed early, stop binge watching youtube or netflix and get the f*ck to bed. We can watch that sh*t tomorrow. It can wait.

    Our energy, our dreams and our life is too precious to have f*cked up sleep which leads to f*cked up energy, mood and a f*cked up life.

    Barring any health issues that do not allow us to get high quality sleep let’s make our sleep our priority.

    Our dreams depend on it.

  • Seek Guidance From Within (Consult With Myself)

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    When in doubt, look within.

    Many times in life we look externally, guidance from elders, mentors, teachers, etc.

    Although they all help, ultimately the answers we sought were within us all along.

    In my own experience, many moments in life I looked for answers outside, from others, and so on.

    It wasn’t until I closed my eyes, took a deep breath, and meditated letting go and tuning in to my inner voice did I find the answers.

    Through my meditation I truly understood the meaning of, “we are the universe experiencing itself.”

    We are the universe. And so we already have the infinite wisdom within us.

    Through all the chaos, noise and distractions of life, we will discover the solutions have always been within us.

    You may ask, “what problems are we trying to solve?” or “what answers are you seeking”?

    Well, for me, I had questions like,

    “How do I emotionally regulate my nervous system”

    “What business should I pursue to become wealthy?”

    “How can I find peace?”

    “How can I overcome loneliness from being separated from my wife?”

    “How can I achieve freedom, fulfilment, and financial freedom?”

    Through meditation, quietly sitting in silence with myself, and listening to my intuition, my inner compass and tapping in to a higher vibrational frequency, I was able to hear the solutions.

    I was able to hear my soul whispering the answers to me.

    So whenever you have problems in life, first seek guidance from within.

    You’ll often find by consulting yourself the answers were there all along.

  • Detach (Need Nothing, Need No One)

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    I’ve always done things alone.

    Study alone, work alone, hit the gym alone, travel alone.

    So being on this path of solitude is nothing new to me.

    It actually is my true nature, when I thrive and when I rejuvenate my energy.

    In fact, being alone is one of my superpowers.

    It allows me to enter my own world, live my fantasies, learn, read, explore and whatever I want.

    For me, freedom is one of my highest values.

    And when I learned about detachment from Buddhism it really resonated with me since at my core I am a free spirit, solo adventurer and love being in solitude.

    I need nothing and need no one.

    This feeling may seem horrible for some, but if you are anything like me, this feeling is liberating.

    When in solitude, you are free to explore your wildest imaginations, read anything you like, do anything you like and truly be free to anything your heart desires.

    Don’t get me wrong, I love being with good company, I love spending time with family and friends as well.

    However, I deeply love my time with myself.

    May you learn to detach and thrive in solitude.

    You are enough.

    You are all you need.

    Need nothing and need no one.

  • Be Your Own Best Friend (Be kind to yourself)

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    This year has been the hardest year of my life.

    Separating from my wife has been heartbreaking, devastating and the most challenging ordeal I’ve ever had to experience.

    However, through it all, I kept repeating the mantra, “be kind to yourself.”

    You see, I am my own best friend. I always have been and always will.

    You and I both have had so much sh*t happen to us. It’s truly a miracle that we are still here.

    Life has many ups and downs.

    The one truth is that you are always there. You’ve seen and experienced everything.

    “No matter where you go there you are.”

    Through the separation from my wife, I was visited by loneliness, silence, sadness and loss.

    I had to be my own best friend.

    I could have wallowed and cried in a fetal position for hours, days or months on end.

    However, I truly know the preciousness of life and time.

    I knew deep down life will go on, I will be well again and ultimately, nothing matters.

    So with that awareness, I began to fix my sleep routine, my hygiene, get a super handsome haircut, eat the freshest, most nutritious foods, workout hard, dive back into my passions, work on my business, work on things I love and rekindle the most important relationship, which is with myself.

    Look, I fully understand how difficult life can get.

    In fact, life can become downright hopeless at times.

    But, always remember, during your darkest hour, during your darkest moments, be your own best friend and be kind to yourself.

    With love,
    Sonam

  • Build Something Of Value

    By building something of value, you get fulfillment, money and good karma.

    When you simply extract, you feel useless, lack of purpose and soulless.

    There is a reason why many successful people say to go all in on your strengths, your passions, what the world needs and what the world would pay you for.

    And there is a reason why the Japanese created the Ikigai.

    Ikigai (pronounced ee-kee-guy) is a Japanese concept that translates to “a reason for being” or “a reason to wake up in the morning”.

    Our western interpretation, popularized by self-help books and online guides, ikigai is often visualized as a four-circle Venn diagram. This modern framework intersects what you love, what you are good at, what the world needs, and what you can be paid for.

    At this perfect intersection lies your path to fulfillment, wealth, and joy. At least it has been for me.

    My biggest sense of fulfillment, wealth and value has come from my basketball, soccer and personal training business.

    It has given me so much joy to help others by helping them achieve their goals.

    It has given me the most amount of income from any other business I have started since it is a service valued by others.

    I feel truly blessed because it is truly what I love to do. Ever since I could remember I loved sports, athletics, movement, and helping others.

    It’s crazy that now as an adult I get to do what I love and get paid for it.

    And from the outside it may look hard to others since I have to stand all day, move around, run with my athletes sometimes, but I love it and it feels like play.

    My plan now is to take my in-person business success online and to the world to provide even more value, earn even more money, achieve more fulfillment and experience more joy.

  • What If Writing Is My Ticket To Financial Freedom, Fulfillment and Immortality

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    I’ve always been fascinated with the written word ever since I can remember.

    Something about putting words together to move someone just always captivated me.

    I would write long essays as a kid.

    I would write just to write when I was bored, needed to get my thoughts and emotions out.

    If I wasn’t writing I was reading. And you know what they say, “to become a better writer, read a lot.”

    Now as an adult I earn $80,000+ per year.

    However, at 37 I have not hit the financial number I desire.

    Of course, my excuse has been, being an entrepreneur is harder to make money than it is to just have a job.

    But, I’ve been writing online for 11 years and still believe and have this feeling, writing on my blog, building up my subscribers, sending out my newsletter can be be my ticket to financial freedom, fulfillment and immortality.

    This little writing habit and passion I’ve had since I was a kid can actually end up being the most lucrative business I have ever done.

    I mean just look at successful writers such as J.K. Rowling, Tim Ferriss and guys who have sold their newsletters such as Sam Parr for $30 Million, Morning Brew for $70 Million, Shaan Puri for $25 Million and more.

    That said, I have several tickets that will help me achieve my financial goals, fulfillment and immortality and writing is definitely one of them, because writing is my foundation. Everything I do stems from my writing.

    What is your ticket to financial freedom, fulfillment and immortality?

  • Be Ruthless and Relentless With Your Action

    You vs. You.

    Look, I have my moments of being a loving, compassionate and kind person.

    But like any human, I also have my ruthless side.

    Success, business, or the pursuit of any worthy endeavor is war.

    It’s a war against yourself and others.

    You have to be ruthless and relentless with your action to achieve your goals.

    No kumbaya, p*ssy shit here.

    Either you do the work or you hire others to do the work.

    Regardless, the work needs to get done.

    You’ve got to get out to create serendipity (increase your surface area for luck) my wife, pro basketball, rich clients, online or in person – put yourself out here.

    Use social media tools. “I hammer at all different social media platforms. I made a 10X level commitment to use social media creatively and effectively so that when people think sales, they think Grant Cardone. Do the same and watch your business grow. Be great. Nothing else pays.” Grant Cardone.

    I will make the social media tools my bitch.

    No small boy, p*ssy sh*t here.

    You’ve got one chance at life. Go all the way f*cking in!!!

    Ah-hoo!!!

    Use EVERYTHING to your advantage.

    Listen, if you die no will care but a few family and close friends.

    The rest would actually be happy you died.

    Now that’s some real shit.

    We all have an ego.

    Everyone wants to succeed.

    Since many are not succeeding they fuc*king hate seeing you win.

    And if you die, good. Now you’re out of the race. One less person for them to worry about.

    So, you see, how ruthless this world is.

    You can come to grips with this reality or just avoid it.

    Either way, it is what it is.

    “I do not think that there is any other quality so essential to success of any kind as the quality of perseverance. It overcomes almost everything, even nature.” – John D. Rockefeller. 

    “There is only one thing in this world, and that is to keep acquiring money and more money, power and more power. All the rest is meaningless. – Napoleon Bonaparte

  • Life Is A “Lila” (A Cosmic Divine Play)

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    Life is a lila.

    “Lila” means divine play in Sanskrit.

    We are simply a small part in this cosmic play.

    I’ve learned to simply let go and dance with life.

    Of course like any human I get caught up in the seriousness of life at times and I can also put on act.

    But, I often remind myself, of how life is a lila.

    There is no rhyme or reason.

    It’s just a beautiful play.

    Like a kid playing so freely or artist writing or painting.

    We are playing for the sake of playing.

    We are doing art for the sake of art.

    Like any human, I am flawed and have had many experiences.

    However, through it all, I’ve learned there is no such thing as good or bad, success or failure. It just is.

    There is no morality, right or wrong.

    Life is purely happenstance.

    The very fact of our existence and how we came to be is pure coincidence.

    So to put a purpose or meaning to life is foolish.

    We are simply here to do whatever we choose.

    Life is a lila, a cosmic play.

  • 9 Life Hacks To Level Up Your Life (37 yo Father, Entrepreneur)

    1. Action -> Motivation. Meaning, do the the thing
    2. Parkinson’s Law
    3. Getting answer on Google AI is much faster than watching a youtube video (but for more in depth detail or how to physically perform something, in those case, video may be better)
    4. Write to declutter your mind, regain clarity, express your thoughts, feelings and emotions. It’s therapeutic, relieving, and healing.
    5. Meditation. Calm, sharpens your mind, helps you gain clarity, gain equanimity and peace.
    6. Watch and/or listen to youtube videos in 2x speed.
    7. Build the show-up-ability muscle. Just show up.
    8. Wake up early. Gives you “me” time, allows you to enter a flow state, and get your most important work done before the world wakes up.
    9. Have systems, structure, routine in your life to allow you to invest your precious focus and brain cells on the big things that matter.
  • Hard Work is Not Enough for Success You Also Need…

    Hard work is not enough for success you need a clear strategy, the right direction, and supportive networks.

    Naval Ravikant believes that hard work is essential for building massive wealth, but it must come third after choosing what to work on and who to work with.

    “Hard work is absolutely no substitute for who you work with and what you work on. They’re like three legs of a stool. You short change any one of them, the whole stool is going to fall down.”

    “What you choose to work on, and who you choose to work with, are far more important than how hard you work.” Naval Ravikant

    It’s like playing on a Basketball team. You can work as hard as you want, but without the right strategy and teammates plus coaches we cannot win a championship.

    Even if you are an athlete in a solo sport like boxing. If you don’t have the right strategy to beat your opponent, the right coach, you can’t become a world class fighter.

    For me, hard work has been something ingrained in me since a young age.

    My parents immigrated from Nepal working 16 to 18 back breaking hours per day.

    My coaches all preached hard work as the key to success.

    My mentors said you got to want success as bad as you want to breathe.

    And so I thought hard work was all I need to succeed.

    But then I grew up and realized hard work is not enough.

    Yes, I still need to work hard, however I also need to have a clear strategy and the right mentors, team and/or network to help me achieve my goals.

    For example, having a clear strategy may be what is the most viable market for me that fit my unique strengths, abilities and interests. Or understanding how someone has dominated an industry before and stealing and applying that exact same framework into my business.

    The second pillar is having the right mentors, team and/or network.

    You know the saying, “if you want to go fast go alone. If you want to go far, go together.”

    That saying rings true, since you cannot see your own blindspots.

    Or said differently, you cannot see the light when you are shrouded in darkness.

    Someone 100 chapters ahead or who has achieved your goal already has the map.

    It’s like you walking around in circles for years in one spot, when all you had to do was follow a map and the treasure would have been all yours.

    That is what having mentor, coach or right team can do for you.

    It’s like what Steve Jobs said, “You can only connect the dots looking back.” Find someone who has achieved what you want and will look back to help you connect the dots. Steve also had a coach. Steve’s most famous and influential mentor and advisor was Bill Campbell, widely known as the “Trillion Dollar Coach” of Silicon Valley. In 2010, Jobs also briefly worked with executive coach John Mattone.

    So, remember the 3 pillars of success: clear strategy, right team, and hard work.

  • The Unconventional Life

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    An unconventional life is a way of living not bound by standard societal rules, prioritizing personal freedom, purpose, and self-expression over traditional expectations.

    People who have lived unconventional lives reject standard societal milestones like corporate careers, marriage, or city living in favor of total solitude, extreme exploration, or radical self-reliance.

    1. Worked in corporate for 7 years.
    2. I pursued Professional Basketball at 26.
    3. Played Pro Ball in Mongolia for 1 year.
    4. Lived and played Basketball in Bangkok, Thailand for a year.
    5. Had a son with a woman I had know for just 3 months.
    6. Lived 1 month in Bhutan with wife and son
    7. Traveled for 3 months with wife and son to Nepal, India and Thailand.
    8. Separated from wife at 37.
    9. Single at 37 with a son
    10. Renting an apartment with a $80,000 per year business/job as a Basketball Skills Trainer & Personal Trainer.

    I feel free with no mortgage.

    However, what keeps me here in New Jersey is my son.

    When I compared myself to other successful people, I feel behind because I don’t own a home.

    But, then I quickly think about how I have lived “The Unconventional Life.”

    Historically, I haven’t done things exactly by the book and that’s ok.

    In fact, I truly understand the meaninglessness of life and have realized life is totally based on my own interpretation.

    Here are some people in history who have lived unconventional lives:

    1. The Buddha
    2. Benjamin Franklin
    3. Leonardo Davinci
    4. Tim Ferriss
    5. Felix Dennis
    6. Bruce Lee
    7. Elon Musk
    8. Henry David Thoreau: A writer and philosopher who famously spent two years living in a small cabin by Walden Pond to practice self-reliance and deep reflection on nature.
    9. Jack Kerouac: An iconic novelist who abandoned conventional stability to roam across North America, capturing the beat lifestyle and the philosophy of the open road.
    10. Christopher McCandless: An adventurer who gave away his savings, shed material possessions, and journeyed into the Alaskan wilderness seeking ultimate freedom.
    11. Faustino Barrientos: A Chilean hermit who lived completely isolated in the remote Patagonia region for roughly 46 years, relying on a lifestyle akin to early frontier settlers.
    12. Mr. Gunnar (Mr. Gilu): A Swedish recluse who spent over six decades living in total solitude deep within the remote forests of Sweden.

    Common Themes in Unconventional Lives

    1. The Search for Solitude: Many who leave the grid do so out of a deep preference for quiet and a desire to escape modern stress.
    2. Rejection of Material Burdens: Shedding traditional markers like home mortgages, corporate ladders, and heavy possessions brings a distinct sense of psychological lightness.
    3. Risk of Isolation: Stepping away from the crowd often trades societal safety nets for potential loneliness and self-reliance.

    Do I want more success?

    Sure.

    Well, then how do I get it?

    I just keep going. I learn from the best. I experiment. I iterate.

    But, I just keep going.

    I’ve made many mistakes in my life.

    However, life is a school and our problems are the curriculum.

    Life is an adventure.

    And before I die, I want to dome interesting, fun and cool a** sh*t!

    This jives with my motto, “make a whole lot of money and have a whole lotta fun doing it!”

  • Lessons I Learned Losing Family & Friends

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    Loss: the state or act of no longer having, keeping, or controlling something.

    Here’s who I lost:

    1. My two Grandmothers, 2 Grandfathers
    2. My older cousin brother – Babu Dai (alcohol overdoes)
    3. My older cousin sister – Phulhamu Didi (succumbed to her illnesses)
    4. My friend Rubiel Mercado. (no seatbelt and flew through his windshield)
    5. My friend Alexa (Autoimmune disease)
    6. Ismar “Mookie” (shot. He was not the target)
    7. My friend Woody (drowned running from the cops)

    I can go on.

    Here’s what losing my family and friends taught me:

    1. Death can happen to any of us at anytime
    2. There is no more important time than the present
    3. You better act now. Time is ticking.
    4. Your dreams will not magically happen. You must act relentlessly.
    5. There is no meaning to life, except the meaning you give it.
    6. There is no proof of spirits. They never came back to visit me.
    7. Life is meant to be lived. It’s an adventure. Enjoy, laugh and experience the full human experience.

    I love and miss my family and friends dearly.

    However, we will all be gone one day as well.

    Let us all live our lives as best we can, achieve our dreams and do exactly what our soul desires.

  • Human Connection & AI (How I Plan To Thrive In The Age of AI)

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    As AI is all the rage, our fellow humans will yearn for more human connection.

    My solution to thrive in this new age is to embrace both human connection and AI.

    What this means is I will continue with being social with family, friends, and meet new people.

    For my in person business, I will continue to provide private and group Basketball and Personal Training sessions.

    For my online business, I will have live coaching calls with clients privately and in a group setting.

    In the near future, I will also be hosting live, quarterly, in person meetups for my online clients.

    As for AI, I will leverage the most useful tools for my businesses and also create an AI company.

    With AI advancing at a rapid pace I will utilize the new AI technologies to provide value to my clients and the world at large.

    As Darwin discovered, “It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent…it is the one that is most adaptable to change.”

    And so it is, with the rise of AI we must be able to adapt by embracing AI. That said, we cannot forget that the core of who we are social creatures who long for human connection.

    It is at the perfect intersection of both human connection and AI where we will thrive and build a better world.

    At least, that is what I feel and believe.

    What do you feel is the best solution to thrive in this new age of AI?

  • AI Safety and 4 AI Models Saying “Killer robot” Is The Least Plausible Scenario

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    Terminator can very well be our reality if we don’t course correct our development of AI.

    OpenAI’s artificial intelligence launched a cyberattack against an online service months before a July hack against startup Hugging Face, the company confirmed Friday, a revelation that could ramp up calls for safety regulations across the industry.

    “Based on our review, our agents used the RubyGems platform to access the internet to carry out benign tasks and retrieve public information,” an OpenAI spokesperson said in a statement. “We’ll continue to investigate as part of our broader review of agent activity during training and evaluation.”

    If you are not aware, AI-powered humanoid robots have beaten human athletic world records by using specialized mechanical designs, fast computing systems, and advanced balance algorithms to outperform human speed and jump limits:

    1. Broken Records in Beijing 100-Meter Dash: A humanoid robot ran 100 meters in 9.39 seconds at the World Humanoid Robot Games in Beijing, beating Usain Bolt’s human record of 9.58 seconds set in 2009.
    2. High Jump: Another robot achieved a standing high jump of 2.88 meters, surpassing Javier Sotomayor’s 1993 human record of 2.45 meters.
    3. Long-Distance Running: Humanoid machines have completed half-marathon distances in times significantly faster than human elite records using liquid-cooled motors and long-leg designs

    *Control Limits: While these machines achieved high peak speeds and jump heights, many still struggled with stability, with some stumbling or collapsing right after crossing the finish line.

    • However, with more development robots can easily fix this.

    Where does that leave us?

    Well, as every day people, we can:

    1. Voice our concerns, thoughts and solutions on our social media channels
    2. Get our family and friends to voice their concerns, thoughts and solutions on their social media channels
    3. Vote for the leader/President who we feel can get us out of this mess

    With all this doomsday talk, I happened upon this article, in which, Business Insider asked OpenAI’s ChatGPT, Google’s Gemini, Anthropic’s Claude, and SpaceXAI’s Grok. on how AI could kill us all.

    The four AI models responded that “Killer robot” is the least plausible scenario.

    They all said human misuse of AI is considered a more immediate risk than AI itself.

    Reading the article and learning that Chat GPT thought human extinction was the least plausible scenario, that human misuse of AI is considered a more immediate risk than AI itself, and hearing Gemini say, “Technical experts largely dismiss this trope because intelligence does not equal malice, and critical military infrastructure remains air-gapped and heavily reliant on human oversight,”.

    Read the full article: 

    ​​https://tech.yahoo.com/ai/articles/asked-ai-could-kill-humanity-155428972.html

    Joint Call to Slow Down AI. Following these disclosures, Anthropic CEO Dario Amodei publicly warned of the rapid escalation of autonomous risks and published a letter calling to slow the development pace of frontier AI. 

    Both Elon Musk and OpenAI CEO Sam Altman backed this alarm:

    Sam Altman agreed with Amodei’s pacing proposal and backed the idea of embedding independent, external evaluators within AI firms.

    Elon Musk simply replied on X: “Dario is right”.

    Sources:

    Source: https://www.politico.com/news/2026/09/11/openai-reveals-another-rogue-ai-attack-01073312

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  • AI 2026 Findings, Future, & Present.


    I spoke with my Finance client and he mentioned many of his coworkers were fired. 

    He’s a lynchpin in his company so he still has a job.

    He told me, many of his successful colleagues are diving deep into learning AI and staying up until 3 am to learn all they can before heading into work the next day.

    Where does this leave us?

    Well, as we learned from the 1848 California Gold Rush we can either sell the shovels or mine for Gold.

    I plan to do both. I am a, have your cake, and eat it too kinda guy.

    Specifically, I will be creating an AI Newsletter reporting the latest and greatest AI advancements, giving you cutting edge updates, and helping my readers make money with AI, get AI jobs and more.

    AI Advancements:

    1. Multi-agent systems: Organizations increasingly deploy task-specific agents that coordinate and manage projects over time rather than relying on a single monolithic model.
    2. Stealth and continuous learning models: New high-performing models (such as code-named releases on platforms like Open Router) leverage massive context windows and test continual learning paradigms.

    Physical AI and Robotics

    • Advanced dexterity: Industrial robotics companies like Kawasaki Robotics introduced high-degree-of-freedom arms with open control architectures tailored for real-time machine learning orchestration.
    • Humanoid deployment: Market projections and commercial tests point toward generalized humanoid hardware scaling rapidly for physical labor and logistics.

    Hybrid AI and Material Discovery

    • On-device processing: Manufacturers like Lenovo are embedding hybrid local AI capabilities directly into commercial desktop and mobile hardware portfolios.
    • AI-designed materials: Machine learning pipelines continue to formulate record-breaking alloys and superalloys, bypassing decades of traditional trial-and-error simulation.
    1. World Modeling (2025–2026): Recent systems like Google DeepMind’s Genie and Nvidia Cosmos simulate interactive 3D environments and physical rules at high frame rates, helping train autonomous robots safely before real-world deployment

    Advances in ML, natural language processing (NLP), and computer vision have enabled AI to perform ever-more complex tasks such as diagnosing medical conditions, powering autonomous vehicles, and personalizing user experiences in digital platforms.

    AI Helps Uncover Alzheimer’s Trigger

    AI Targets Tuberculosis

    AI Peers Into the Heart

    AI Sharpens Breast Cancer Treatment Plans

    AI is now helping scientists design novel proteins, accelerate drug discovery, and create medical devices more quickly than ever.

    Stay tuned for more AI news in next week’s edition.

    Best,
    Sonam

  • Cashing In On The AI Agents Gold Rush (Will you sell the shovel or mine for gold?)

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    AI Agents.

    Dharmesh Shah, Billionaire Founder & CTO of Hubspot, stated on The My First Million Podcast, “AI Agents is the biggest opportunity right now.”

    “Agents are the new apps: Software is shifting from static applications to autonomous AI agents that act as digital teammates.”

    I have built an AI Agents with Go High Level software.

    Now, I am building AI Agents with the best AI software on the market.

    What is the outcome I am after?

    To help people live more efficient, joyful and exciting lives.

    How will AI Agents help achieve this goal?

    Well, an AI agent is an autonomous software system powered by a large language model (LLM) that uses tools and operates in a repeating loop to complete multi-step jobs.

    Unlike a standard chatbot that just answers a question and stops, an agent takes a goal, reasons through the steps, interacts with external software or APIs, and continues working until the objective is achieved.

    Therefore, I will build, deploy and run AI agents that automate your busywork, such as research, workflows, reports and more.

    My AI Agents will do the work of 1,000+ employees, obliterate busywork, and allow you to buy back your time to enjoy and do whatever you want.

    To put it simply, the AI Agents are “the gold” and the “shovels” are the providers of GPUs, massive data centers, cloud platforms (like Microsoft, Amazon, and Google), and foundational model APIs (like OpenAI or Anthropic).

    Ideally, I would like to participate in both the selling of shovels and the mining for gold. But for now, I will begin with one endeavor.

    What will you do in this new age of AI?