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Tag: success

  • You Must Do Things You Don’t Feel Like Doing (All The Time)

    You must do things you don’t feel like doing, all the time.

    As a Father, business owner, and coach there are so many things I do not feel like doing. But I do them anyway.

    You have to build up this muscle where you start moving, which begins to make you feel like doing more, and then before you know it the thing you didn’t want to do is almost done or completed.

    Action precedes motivation, meaning discipline requires taking physical or mental steps before you actually “feel” like doing them. 

    Here’s a core principle of discipline: 

    Action precedes emotion: You do not need to wait for inspiration or a good mood to start a task; starting the action changes your brain chemistry and creates momentum.

    For example,

    1. Waking up. Some days you just don’t want to because you’re tired, you didn’t get enough sleep, or whatever. But you get up, walk to the bathroom, wash some cold water on your face and before you know it you feel a little more awake and you’ve got some momentum. 
    2. I don’t feel like training my Basketball player or fitness clients. But same idea. I get to the gym and for some odd reason I begin to feel good, the training is moving, time is ticking and before I know it we had a great session.
    3. I don’t feel like working out. I know the value of exercise after reading books like, “Spark: The Revolutionary New Science of Exercise and the Brain”.
    4. Writing on my blog and my newsletter. Frankly, I didn’t feel like writing this post you’re reading. But I have a habit of writing everyday and I know the impact and value my experience can bring to you. And so, I begin to write one letter, then one word and before I know it, here I am almost complete with this post.
    5. Doing my accounts receivables. I hate asking people for money but once I open up my Google Spreadsheets, getting into the flow of deep work, invoicing my clients, the boring work I had been avoiding is done.

    TLDR: get moving. Just by taking the smallest action, you will begin momentum, and you’ll begin to feel like doing more.

    Here’s the formula:

    Action -> Feel -> Result. 

    You can’t always rely on feeling good because as humans our emotions and how we feel go up and down. But what we can rely on is taking action, whether we feel like it or not, which is the first trigger to the domino effect to completing any task.

  • Effortless Success

    Effortless Success.

    Be in flow.

    I was training one of my girls on how to improve her 3 point shooting and the word I ketp saying was, “effortless”.

    When you are relaxed, breathe, and shoot without much effort the more your shots will go in.

    It’s like the Chinese finger trap.

    The only way to get your finger out is to loosen your grip. The harder you try and more force you use the more you will continue to get your finger trapped. To get out of a Chinese finger trap, stop pulling your hands apart and push your fingers gently inward toward the center.

    It’s the same with success.

    You have to let go of the outcome, get in flow and focus on consistent effort, creating systems to make the work seem effortless, and do what feels like play to you but work to others.

    Taking action will become a habit, you’ll have the momentum and it will feel almost easy to continue to succeed.

  • Be Ruthless and Relentless With Your Action

    You vs. You.

    Look, I have my moments of being a loving, compassionate and kind person.

    But like any human, I also have my ruthless side.

    Success, business, or the pursuit of any worthy endeavor is war.

    It’s a war against yourself and others.

    You have to be ruthless and relentless with your action to achieve your goals.

    No kumbaya, p*ssy shit here.

    Either you do the work or you hire others to do the work.

    Regardless, the work needs to get done.

    You’ve got to get out to create serendipity (increase your surface area for luck) my wife, pro basketball, rich clients, online or in person – put yourself out here.

    Use social media tools. “I hammer at all different social media platforms. I made a 10X level commitment to use social media creatively and effectively so that when people think sales, they think Grant Cardone. Do the same and watch your business grow. Be great. Nothing else pays.” Grant Cardone.

    I will make the social media tools my bitch.

    No small boy, p*ssy sh*t here.

    You’ve got one chance at life. Go all the way f*cking in!!!

    Ah-hoo!!!

    Use EVERYTHING to your advantage.

    Listen, if you die no will care but a few family and close friends.

    The rest would actually be happy you died.

    Now that’s some real shit.

    We all have an ego.

    Everyone wants to succeed.

    Since many are not succeeding they fuc*king hate seeing you win.

    And if you die, good. Now you’re out of the race. One less person for them to worry about.

    So, you see, how ruthless this world is.

    You can come to grips with this reality or just avoid it.

    Either way, it is what it is.

    “I do not think that there is any other quality so essential to success of any kind as the quality of perseverance. It overcomes almost everything, even nature.” – John D. Rockefeller. 

    “There is only one thing in this world, and that is to keep acquiring money and more money, power and more power. All the rest is meaningless. – Napoleon Bonaparte

  • Hard Work is Not Enough for Success You Also Need…

    Hard work is not enough for success you need a clear strategy, the right direction, and supportive networks.

    Naval Ravikant believes that hard work is essential for building massive wealth, but it must come third after choosing what to work on and who to work with.

    “Hard work is absolutely no substitute for who you work with and what you work on. They’re like three legs of a stool. You short change any one of them, the whole stool is going to fall down.”

    “What you choose to work on, and who you choose to work with, are far more important than how hard you work.” Naval Ravikant

    It’s like playing on a Basketball team. You can work as hard as you want, but without the right strategy and teammates plus coaches we cannot win a championship.

    Even if you are an athlete in a solo sport like boxing. If you don’t have the right strategy to beat your opponent, the right coach, you can’t become a world class fighter.

    For me, hard work has been something ingrained in me since a young age.

    My parents immigrated from Nepal working 16 to 18 back breaking hours per day.

    My coaches all preached hard work as the key to success.

    My mentors said you got to want success as bad as you want to breathe.

    And so I thought hard work was all I need to succeed.

    But then I grew up and realized hard work is not enough.

    Yes, I still need to work hard, however I also need to have a clear strategy and the right mentors, team and/or network to help me achieve my goals.

    For example, having a clear strategy may be what is the most viable market for me that fit my unique strengths, abilities and interests. Or understanding how someone has dominated an industry before and stealing and applying that exact same framework into my business.

    The second pillar is having the right mentors, team and/or network.

    You know the saying, “if you want to go fast go alone. If you want to go far, go together.”

    That saying rings true, since you cannot see your own blindspots.

    Or said differently, you cannot see the light when you are shrouded in darkness.

    Someone 100 chapters ahead or who has achieved your goal already has the map.

    It’s like you walking around in circles for years in one spot, when all you had to do was follow a map and the treasure would have been all yours.

    That is what having mentor, coach or right team can do for you.

    It’s like what Steve Jobs said, “You can only connect the dots looking back.” Find someone who has achieved what you want and will look back to help you connect the dots. Steve also had a coach. Steve’s most famous and influential mentor and advisor was Bill Campbell, widely known as the “Trillion Dollar Coach” of Silicon Valley. In 2010, Jobs also briefly worked with executive coach John Mattone.

    So, remember the 3 pillars of success: clear strategy, right team, and hard work.