Sonam J. Lama

Tag: within

  • Your Happiness Doesn’t Come From Anyone But Yourself

    Your happiness doesn’t come from anyone but yourself.

    All my life, I thought happiness comes from others. Being with family, friends, doing things, achieving things. These were all external.

    I now realize happiness is internal.

    It’s already within me and available to me at any moment.

    For example, today I went to pick my son up from my ex-wife’s apartment. She was in a bad mood, which altered my mood a bit. But then I quickly realized her mood does not affect mine. You and I have our own internal locus of control. I wish we come back together as a family but whether that happens or not does not affect my happiness one bit.

    I am happiness and I will be happy no matter what happens in life.

    Happiness is a choice.

    It is something we can decide to be at any moment in our lives.

    You must learn to be happy alone, with people and in any situation.

    Life has many ups and downs but through it all, in your life, you are the main constant.

    Your happiness will not come to you. It can only come from you.

    “If you want to be happy, be.” — Tolstoy

    Your happiness doesn’t come from anyone but yourself.

  • Seek Guidance From Within (Consult With Myself)

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    When in doubt, look within.

    Many times in life we look externally, guidance from elders, mentors, teachers, etc.

    Although they all help, ultimately the answers we sought were within us all along.

    In my own experience, many moments in life I looked for answers outside, from others, and so on.

    It wasn’t until I closed my eyes, took a deep breath, and meditated letting go and tuning in to my inner voice did I find the answers.

    Through my meditation I truly understood the meaning of, “we are the universe experiencing itself.”

    We are the universe. And so we already have the infinite wisdom within us.

    Through all the chaos, noise and distractions of life, we will discover the solutions have always been within us.

    You may ask, “what problems are we trying to solve?” or “what answers are you seeking”?

    Well, for me, I had questions like,

    “How do I emotionally regulate my nervous system”

    “What business should I pursue to become wealthy?”

    “How can I find peace?”

    “How can I overcome loneliness from being separated from my wife?”

    “How can I achieve freedom, fulfilment, and financial freedom?”

    Through meditation, quietly sitting in silence with myself, and listening to my intuition, my inner compass and tapping in to a higher vibrational frequency, I was able to hear the solutions.

    I was able to hear my soul whispering the answers to me.

    So whenever you have problems in life, first seek guidance from within.

    You’ll often find by consulting yourself the answers were there all along.